Nala

What’s happened to you? You’re not the Simba I remember.
(Adult Simba) You’re right, I’m not. Now are you satisfied?
No, just disappointed.
You know you’re starting to sound like my father.
Good. At least one of us does.

Even in Disney movie romances, conflicts arise. It’s inevitable in any sort of relationship to disagree on certain topics because, well, you’re different people with different opinions on what’s right and what’s wrong. The key is to learn how to deal with these arguments and still be friends once the storm has passed. This takes a certain level of respect for the other person and compassion in your heart. While what they may say to you could anger or sadden you, you should honor what they’re saying as valid and hear them out. Sometimes seeing things through a different set of eyes can open up a world of possibilities you never would have thought of before. But if they aren’t coming from a place of love and are instead cruel or demeaning, it’s best to walk away from the situation until that person has calmed down. With time, they will most likely be able to talk about things in a calm and controlled way. It takes a strong will in order to deal with conflict in an adult manner, but with a few deep breaths and an open heart, all will be well again soon. ©

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Jasmine

Aladdin: Your majesty, I am Prince Ali Ababwa. Just let her meet me. I will win your daughter.
Jasmine: How dare you? All of you! Standing around deciding my future. I am not a prize to be won!

You gotta love Jasmine’s strength and determination, especially when standing up to her father in a serious situation. But what really caught my attention was Aladdin’s line – even though he knew she would like him because they had met before, out of context (the way Jasmine’s hearing it because she doesn’t understand the circumstances), this is a really arrogant statement. And unfortunately, this is how some guys act anymore. They think they’re hot commodities, no matter what they look or act like. Personally, I’ve heard some great lines when guys ask me out on dates – we’ll go out to dinner and they’ll talk about how amazing they are, what they’ve accomplished that makes them so great, and how handsome they are (yes, I’m not making this up). I would sit there wide-eyed and amazed, but not in the way they wanted me to be. I couldn’t believe the bravado they displayed, especially when they should be doing just the opposite: wanting to learn about the girl they’re with and complimenting her, and not just to get something from her at the end of the night. That’s what makes Jasmine’s reaction so admirable. She know she deserves better than this and she’s not going to put up with it anymore. And neither should you. ©

Cinderella

“Am I beautiful because you love me? Or do you love me because I am beautiful?”

Hair dye and highlights, perfecting brow stencils, false eyelashes, multiple shades of eyeshadow, thick eyeliner, ultimate coverage foundation and concealer, contouring and blush and highlighting, lip plumpers, pore minimizing moisturizer, facial masks, acne treatments, fake tanner, fake nails, fake boobs, and we can’t forget about the weight loss obsession…no wonder women are so insecure!
Look at this list – there are so many expectations held by young men, and other young women, that we must look a certain way. Clearly, this takes a loooot of time and effort. And in the end, we don’t even resemble our true selves; we are merely a reflection of ‘accepted’ beauty. We’ve become so enslaved to this idea that we’re ashamed of the way we look without makeup on and put ourselves down for the size of our thighs or the shape of our eyes. This insecurity is not only crushing our confidence, but it’s damaging our relationships with others, especially in romantic situations. We start to question, after morphing ourselves to fit the mold, whether or not the guy actually likes ‘us’ or just the facade he sees. Girls, it’s time to wipe off the makeup, eat a cookie, and celebrate life. Let’s start a beauty revolution where we take back the power society has stripped from us and declare ourselves beautiful looking just the way we are!
Are you in? I know I am. ©