Heart don’t fail me now. Courage don’t desert me. Don’t turn back now that we’re here.
People always say: “Life is full of choices.” No one ever mentions fear.
In chasing dreams, fear is very common; especially when you start comparing yourself to others and their talent level. When looking at whatever goal you’re trying to achieve, whether it be writing a novel, losing weight, or winning a major sports competition, analyzing how others are doing may not help you – in fact, it may hinder your performance. When you focus all your energy on other people, you lose sight of your own advancements. You start to slowly tear yourself apart by wondering why you can’t do something or aren’t already where someone else is in their ambitious journey. And this can sometimes cause you to stop and run away from your dreams, giving up entirely because of heightened insecurities. What you have to do to continue progressing is to stay focused on what you’re doing and how you can improve upon your current abilities. Be confident in all the hard work you’ve done in order to accomplish that goal. Believe in yourself and you’re more than half way there. ©
“Am I beautiful because you love me? Or do you love me because I am beautiful?”
Hair dye and highlights, perfecting brow stencils, false eyelashes, multiple shades of eyeshadow, thick eyeliner, ultimate coverage foundation and concealer, contouring and blush and highlighting, lip plumpers, pore minimizing moisturizer, facial masks, acne treatments, fake tanner, fake nails, fake boobs, and we can’t forget about the weight loss obsession…no wonder women are so insecure!
Look at this list – there are so many expectations held by young men, and other young women, that we must look a certain way. Clearly, this takes a loooot of time and effort. And in the end, we don’t even resemble our true selves; we are merely a reflection of ‘accepted’ beauty. We’ve become so enslaved to this idea that we’re ashamed of the way we look without makeup on and put ourselves down for the size of our thighs or the shape of our eyes. This insecurity is not only crushing our confidence, but it’s damaging our relationships with others, especially in romantic situations. We start to question, after morphing ourselves to fit the mold, whether or not the guy actually likes ‘us’ or just the facade he sees. Girls, it’s time to wipe off the makeup, eat a cookie, and celebrate life. Let’s start a beauty revolution where we take back the power society has stripped from us and declare ourselves beautiful looking just the way we are!
Are you in? I know I am. ©
Happy: This is Dopey, he don’t talk none.
Snow White: You mean he can’t talk?
Happy: He don’t know, he never tried.
Poor, Dopey…so shy and intimidated, he never even tried to speak. Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of us when it comes to our deepest aspirations. I’m pretty sure we all have that dream that seems completely out of reach – getting in to that prestigious school or program, medaling in the Olympics, or becoming a world-renowned recording artist. While they may seem impossible now, if you dedicate yourself to it, you never know what may happen. You could so easily become that person whose hard work and dedication led you to accomplishing more than you ever thought you could. However, lacking the confidence or courage to take that first step, the most important part of any journey, is what holds back many. But if it’s something you really want, then you must go after it. What have you got to lose? If this particular dream doesn’t come to fruition, then it’s on to the next one. Life is full of dreams and possibilities – you just have to have to courage to try. ©
“I am Merida and I’ll be shooting for my own hand!”
This princess knew exactly what she wanted, and this did not include a marriage any time in the near future. Her suitors were pathetic and her mom was pressuring her, so she decided to change her fate. She knew that the only way to make this happen was to take matters into her own hands. And that’s exactly what she did. When people try to make decisions for you, especially the ones you don’t agree with, there is nothing wrong with taking a stand. Speaking up for yourself is courageous and noble and people respect you more for it. Sometimes you have to demand you deserve better by getting away from the situation completely – dump faux friends, break up with a toxic boyfriend, or just be by yourself for an hour or two. Rid your life of the things that make you unhappy; life is too short to spend your time with someone who makes you miserable. Be confident in who ‘you’ are and don’t let anyone steal your joy. Think like brave Merida and ask yourself,
“If you had a chance to change your fate, would you?” ©
Phoebus: You fight almost as well as a man.
Esmeralda: Funny, I was going to say the same thing about you.
Esmeralda to me has always been the definition of ‘moxie’: someone with “energy, spunk, and spirit”. She was courageous in her actions and stood up for what she believed was right. When someone gave her a backhanded compliment, she spun it with a playful twist and handed it right back to them. This confidence is what I believe many girls are lacking nowadays. We take so much negativity from people and accept it as though it was complete truth. All my life I’ve always said that I didn’t care what people thought of me, but until recently, I realized I never really meant it. People’s careless thoughts and rude opinions always cut deep. But in the past year or so, I have finally embraced the fact that my life is indeed ‘my’ life. If others don’t like something about me, it doesn’t bother me anymore because if it is a part of my life that I truly love, then that’s what’s important. If something makes you happy, continue it. If it brings positivity to your life, nurture it. If it is something you have always dreamed of, chase it. Don’t let the jealous words of others bring you down. Channel Esmeralda’s confidence and courage and love the life you live. ©