Alice

“But I don’t want to go among mad people.”
“You can’t help that. Most everyone’s mad here.”

I’m sure I’m not the only one that has ever felt like I’m surrounded by crazies. For example, whenever I go to school, I feel like I’ve walked into a war zone. People push and shove through the hallways, students talk loudly in class while the teacher is speaking, and as they try to get to their desks, they bonk you in the head with their backpacks. On the way home using public transportation, men stay seated as women stand, people crunch their chips or blast their music, and once at the final destination, I get trampled by everyone racing to get off first. It feels to me that the world and the people living in it are just getting more and more intense. It’s all about them. Whatever happened to “love thy neighbor” or “do unto others as they shall do unto you”? Instead, it’s become ‘take advantage of thy neighbor’ and ‘do unto others as you darn well please with no consequences for your actions.’ While my initial reaction to this rude behavior is to act the same way in return, I know in my heart that I don’t want to become like one of these people. I want to inspire you to also be different. Be kind, be considerate, be patient – love people in spite of their actions. I know it’s hard, but it’ll make all the difference in the world. ©

White Queen

You cannot live your life to please others. The choice must be yours.

I’ve learned over the years that no matter how you choose to live your life, whether you stick with the rules, rebel, or just go with the flow, someone out there is destined to disapprove. But you, my friend, are a unique individual and I encourage you to be proud of that fact. In middle school that can be hard and high school can be even worse because so many people are entirely too judgmental. And you know why that is? Because they’re insecure and plan on making your insecurities even stronger so theirs will be diminished. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really get better as you get older because those people who were ‘haters’ when they were younger will still judge you because they never learned how to survive without severely criticizing others. But don’t get discouraged. There is a bright side:  you learn how to deal with it and allow it to make you stronger. Cliché as it is, it’s true. The more you learn that what others think truly does not matter, the more you can love yourself and everything you enjoy, without giving a second thought to what others’ opinions will be. Be true to yourself; life is so much better when you are. ©