“You might come to see you were meant to be so much more.”
I was just thinking about what scares me the most. The dark and what may be lurking in it, sure. Bugs, especially the flying stinging kind, certainly. But what has recently haunted me is the idea of being ‘average’. And I think almost everyone can relate. This is why some work so hard in school to be the student with a 4.0 whose papers get used as examples in class. This is why actors dream of ‘making it big’ so they can walk on red carpets and make obscene amounts of money. This is why some people work out every day so they can achieve the body that would cause others to be jealous. Inside, we are all striving to discover our ‘thing’ that we naturally excel in so we can become more than average. But what I’ve recently realized is this: achievements can only say so much. The world focuses so heavily on grades and awards and beauty, but I want to open your eyes to the intangibles, the deeper accomplishments. Being a mentor to someone and changing their lives for the better, making the right decision even when it’s tough to do so, choosing to be a good example and winding up inspiring someone to do the same – “you might come to see you were meant to be so much more” than what society deems ‘successful’. And I believe that’s you just being… you. ©
Rapunzel: I have made the decision to trust you.
Flynn Rider: A horrible decision really.
Don’t you wish more people were like that? Come right out and say it – provide you a warning label. But unfortunately the majority of people like this hide that they are untrustworthy. They conceal the fact well and you usually don’t realize you’re being duped until it’s too late…they’ve hurt you or broken your heart entirely. These people are a large part of what makes the world such a challenging place to live. While you can’t stay up in your tower or keep them wrapped in your hair forever, you can control the power they have over you. If someone says something to offend you, it may hurt but you mustn’t let it crush your spirit. If the young man you’re falling for suddenly becomes scathingly judgmental, leave before the situation gets worse. If your friend turns her back on you, realize that she wasn’t a true friend to begin with. Being strong in a world like this is tough, but you must believe in yourself enough to know you’re worth more than the lies and deception, the pain and guilt, and the heartache and sadness. Remember what a wise woman once said,
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ©
“The flower that blooms in adversity is the most rare and beautiful of them all.”
We live in a world full of hardships. War, poverty, illness, death…it constantly surrounds us. No wonder so many suffer with depression and feel so desperately alone. But the ultimate challenge that faces us is this: to rise above it all. To take charge of our own lives and seize the determination that is so necessary to life on this planet. We must face the disaster around us. As the quote reminds us, we must ‘bloom’ despite of it all. We need to think of the negatives as fertilizer to our soil, the tears as the water needed to survive, and the hope that still lives within us as our ray of sunlight. We can learn to grow. This isn’t easy, but this is what makes these flowers so ‘rare’; not everyone is up to the challenge. I want to draw your attention to the last part of the sentence – that these are the most ‘beautiful of them all’. If you can muster up all the strength within you to go on, to fight for what you deserve, and to reclaim your life, you will become the beautiful being you were always meant to be. ©
Happy: This is Dopey, he don’t talk none.
Snow White: You mean he can’t talk?
Happy: He don’t know, he never tried.
Poor, Dopey…so shy and intimidated, he never even tried to speak. Unfortunately, this happens to a lot of us when it comes to our deepest aspirations. I’m pretty sure we all have that dream that seems completely out of reach – getting in to that prestigious school or program, medaling in the Olympics, or becoming a world-renowned recording artist. While they may seem impossible now, if you dedicate yourself to it, you never know what may happen. You could so easily become that person whose hard work and dedication led you to accomplishing more than you ever thought you could. However, lacking the confidence or courage to take that first step, the most important part of any journey, is what holds back many. But if it’s something you really want, then you must go after it. What have you got to lose? If this particular dream doesn’t come to fruition, then it’s on to the next one. Life is full of dreams and possibilities – you just have to have to courage to try. ©
“I would do it. I would kiss a frog.
I would kiss a hundred frogs if I could marry a prince and be a princess.”
(Princess and the Frog)
Wouldn’t you? Problem is, there are vast amounts more ordinary frogs than princes out there and I’m pretty sure we’ve kissed a fair amount of them, to no avail. But don’t let this dash your princess dreams. Someday your prince will come, but this will take some time – and a lot of patience on your part. You may feel that you’re ready to run off into the sunset and live your life with your dream hubby in your superb castle, but the boys just aren’t there yet. They’re still too busy figuring out who they are, transforming from little boys into young men. Sure, in this movie it took kissing the frog to transform him into a prince, but that’s not typical. You know what they say, frogs will be frogs. So let other girls transform them. Let them do all the work while you enjoy being single and have fun with your friends! My advice to you is to wait it out – you don’t want to be kissing a frog when your prince comes along. ©
“I am Merida and I’ll be shooting for my own hand!”
This princess knew exactly what she wanted, and this did not include a marriage any time in the near future. Her suitors were pathetic and her mom was pressuring her, so she decided to change her fate. She knew that the only way to make this happen was to take matters into her own hands. And that’s exactly what she did. When people try to make decisions for you, especially the ones you don’t agree with, there is nothing wrong with taking a stand. Speaking up for yourself is courageous and noble and people respect you more for it. Sometimes you have to demand you deserve better by getting away from the situation completely – dump faux friends, break up with a toxic boyfriend, or just be by yourself for an hour or two. Rid your life of the things that make you unhappy; life is too short to spend your time with someone who makes you miserable. Be confident in who ‘you’ are and don’t let anyone steal your joy. Think like brave Merida and ask yourself,
“If you had a chance to change your fate, would you?” ©
“He comes on with his big, innocent farm boy routine, but I could see through that in a Peloponnesian minute.”
Talk about an independent woman! Meg knew she was something special and refused to let anyone tell her otherwise. She saw straight through the boys who would play her and tell her everything she wanted to hear. Even when she truly fell hard for Hercules, the one guy who felt sincere affection toward her, she wouldn’t admit she had fallen in love: “No chance, no way, I won’t say it, no, no…” But sometimes it’s hard to be as wise as Meg. Sometimes we fall for the lies and fall head over heels…only to be left when the next ‘princess’ or ‘damsel in distress’ comes along. My advice to you is this – don’t believe everything you hear. Take every line that sounds a little too smooth with a grain of salt; you’re probably not the only girl who has heard these words from him. But also, don’t harden your heart, guard it. It’s too easily broken to be left unprotected. Trust your judgement… Your head and heart know more than you think. ©
Phoebus: You fight almost as well as a man.
Esmeralda: Funny, I was going to say the same thing about you.
Esmeralda to me has always been the definition of ‘moxie’: someone with “energy, spunk, and spirit”. She was courageous in her actions and stood up for what she believed was right. When someone gave her a backhanded compliment, she spun it with a playful twist and handed it right back to them. This confidence is what I believe many girls are lacking nowadays. We take so much negativity from people and accept it as though it was complete truth. All my life I’ve always said that I didn’t care what people thought of me, but until recently, I realized I never really meant it. People’s careless thoughts and rude opinions always cut deep. But in the past year or so, I have finally embraced the fact that my life is indeed ‘my’ life. If others don’t like something about me, it doesn’t bother me anymore because if it is a part of my life that I truly love, then that’s what’s important. If something makes you happy, continue it. If it brings positivity to your life, nurture it. If it is something you have always dreamed of, chase it. Don’t let the jealous words of others bring you down. Channel Esmeralda’s confidence and courage and love the life you live. ©